Openly gay couples who decide to become parents is still a new phenomena. Society has to catch up with this new trend. You may encounter hostility or suspicion if you’re parenting with a same-sex partner. You have to realize the importance of your unique situation. You can be an example that gay parents can make good parents and that gay families can be happy families.
In a recent report made by the American Psychological Association, they observed that “not a single study has found children of gay or lesbian parents to be disadvantaged in any significant effect relative to children of heterosexual parents.”
As a gay parent, you may wonder if you and your same-sex partner are depriving your child of an essential ingredient available only to children of “straight” parents. All the research to date suggests that the children of gay parents are at no significant disadvantage. Some of their findings are:
•Sexual orientation does not affect good parenting. It depends on ability of the parent to create a nurturing and loving, something both straight and gay parents can do.
•The children of gay parents grow up healthy, happy, and well-adjusted as the children of straight parents.
•There is no evidence to suggest that children of gay parents are less popular, less intelligent or more likely to have problems than children of straight parents.
•Children of gay parents are no more likely to become gay or straight than other children.
Gays and lesbians rarely become parents by accident, compared with an almost 50 percent accidental pregnancy rate among heterosexuals. It means that they have greater commitment on average and more involvement.
The children of gay parents show few differences in mental health, achievement, social functioning and other measures. They have the advantage of tolerance, open-mindedness and role models for impartial relationships.